Comments on: Truthfulness http://www.secretan.com/blog/index.php/truthfulness/ by Lance Secretan Tue, 10 Jan 2012 17:33:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Anna Troyer http://www.secretan.com/blog/index.php/truthfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-150 Anna Troyer Thu, 19 Jan 2006 10:16:16 +0000 http://www.secretan.com/blog/?p=51#comment-150 Wasn't it already written in the Bible: And the truth shall set you free??? Well, here we've got it?? shalom. Wasn’t it already written in the Bible: And the truth shall set you free???
Well, here we’ve got it?? shalom.

]]> By: Dennis Pescitelli http://www.secretan.com/blog/index.php/truthfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-137 Dennis Pescitelli Mon, 16 Jan 2006 17:11:15 +0000 http://www.secretan.com/blog/?p=51#comment-137 My mentor coach once remarked that, "People resent others because others can't guess the requests they dare not make". In my experience, there is more "friction loss" in organizations from the inability to make clear requests than from any other factor. Why is it so hard for us to make clear requests? Is it because we have become sloppy about speaking truthfully? It's not so much some conscious effort to deceive, but rather shading meanings here and there, taking the real feelings out of our words, and leaving ourselves a rear exit. Thank you, Lance, for your observations about modelling truthfulness and the untapped energy that is liberated when we do. namaste My mentor coach once remarked that, “People resent others because others can’t guess the requests they dare not make”. In my experience, there is more “friction loss” in organizations from the inability to make clear requests than from any other factor. Why is it so hard for us to make clear requests? Is it because we have become sloppy about speaking truthfully? It’s not so much some conscious effort to deceive, but rather shading meanings here and there, taking the real feelings out of our words, and leaving ourselves a rear exit.
Thank you, Lance, for your observations about modelling truthfulness and the untapped energy that is liberated when we do.

namaste

]]> By: Louie Gardiner http://www.secretan.com/blog/index.php/truthfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-136 Louie Gardiner Mon, 16 Jan 2006 12:35:33 +0000 http://www.secretan.com/blog/?p=51#comment-136 Courage and truth - hard to have one without the other. I hold these principles dear and yet like any fragile human being I have disappointed myself profoundly when I have allowed the conjunction of my fear (of survival being threatened) and my desire (for something which I believe 'another' will deny me) to take over - and I have found myself withholding the truth. This pattern has repeated itself through my life - the last time four years ago in relation to my partner of 9 years. What started out as loving choice to let go of each other turned into a muddy, hurtful wrenching apart (which we are still working through; achingly slowly recovering from) accompanied by my loss of respect for myself which has taken some time to regain. And recently, the same configuration appeared in my life again - this time in my work - and this time, determined to take charge of the fear, supported by my Destiny - Cause - Calling; supported by my innner processing to discern the lies my mind was telling me which fuelled the fear; supported by preparing my body to reach a place of calm (swimming); supported by my connecting to my inner spirit - I stepped through the fear and made a different stand ....... and the joy, abundance and humble pride in myself at doing it differently this time has brought me to such a place of joy and gratitude and celebration. I told the truth about my purpose; I told the truth about the situation; I told the truth about how I wanted everyone to win and the space opened up for that to be so. I feel so blessed and know at the deepest level that truthtelling underpinned by a loving, honourable, purpose/ intention will bring rewards beyond any measure or expectation. In the end truthtelling underpinned in this way conveys to others our trustworthiness and it is that and that alone which creates the trusting environment namaste Courage and truth – hard to have one without the other. I hold these principles dear and yet like any fragile human being I have disappointed myself profoundly when I have allowed the conjunction of my fear (of survival being threatened) and my desire (for something which I believe ‘another’ will deny me) to take over – and I have found myself withholding the truth. This pattern has repeated itself through my life – the last time four years ago in relation to my partner of 9 years. What started out as loving choice to let go of each other turned into a muddy, hurtful wrenching apart (which we are still working through; achingly slowly recovering from) accompanied by my loss of respect for myself which has taken some time to regain.

And recently, the same configuration appeared in my life again – this time in my work – and this time, determined to take charge of the fear, supported by my Destiny – Cause – Calling; supported by my innner processing to discern the lies my mind was telling me which fuelled the fear; supported by preparing my body to reach a place of calm (swimming); supported by my connecting to my inner spirit – I stepped through the fear and made a different stand ……. and the joy, abundance and humble pride in myself at doing it differently this time has brought me to such a place of joy and gratitude and celebration. I told the truth about my purpose; I told the truth about the situation; I told the truth about how I wanted everyone to win and the space opened up for that to be so. I feel so blessed and know at the deepest level that truthtelling underpinned by a loving, honourable, purpose/ intention will bring rewards beyond any measure or expectation. In the end truthtelling underpinned in this way conveys to others our trustworthiness and it is that and that alone which creates the trusting environment

namaste

]]> By: Ashe http://www.secretan.com/blog/index.php/truthfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-135 Ashe Mon, 16 Jan 2006 05:29:38 +0000 http://www.secretan.com/blog/?p=51#comment-135 I don't think there's any other way to live. If we can't honour all of the truths in our lives how can we possible honour them in anyone else's? For me, truth and trust is one. It's hard to trust if you don't believe and vice versa. As a business owner, I see and feel clients struggling with trying to be truthful because they feel that if they allow themselves to share and be slightly vulnernable and perhaps even let their guard down that they will be exploited. In fact, when the truth is spoken it appears that no one believes it anyway because it seems "un-real!" Ironic truth? Thank-you Lance for defining this so well. Namaste I don’t think there’s any other way to live. If we can’t honour all of the truths in our lives how can we possible honour them in anyone else’s?

For me, truth and trust is one. It’s hard to trust if you don’t believe and vice versa.

As a business owner, I see and feel clients struggling with trying to be truthful because they feel that if they allow themselves to share and be slightly vulnernable and perhaps even let their guard down that they will be exploited. In fact, when the truth is spoken it appears that no one believes it anyway because it seems “un-real!” Ironic truth?

Thank-you Lance for defining this so well.

Namaste

]]> By: lance http://www.secretan.com/blog/index.php/truthfulness/comment-page-1/#comment-132 lance Mon, 16 Jan 2006 02:33:36 +0000 http://www.secretan.com/blog/?p=51#comment-132 For Peter: You ask the question, "What will happen if I say what I really think?". Well, perhaps the answer is that you will feel "clean", authentic, whole and one with yourself and what you really believe in - the message of "ONE: The Art and Practice of Conscious Leadership". You might also ask, "What will happen if I DON'T say what i really think?" Perhaps the answer might be the opposite: you will feel "unclean", inauthentic, separated from yourself and what you really believe in. How do you want to live your life? For Peter: You ask the question, “What will happen if I say what I really think?”. Well, perhaps the answer is that you will feel “clean”, authentic, whole and one with yourself and what you really believe in – the message of “ONE: The Art and Practice of Conscious Leadership”. You might also ask, “What will happen if I DON’T say what i really think?” Perhaps the answer might be the opposite: you will feel “unclean”, inauthentic, separated from yourself and what you really believe in. How do you want to live your life?

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