Comments on: Effectiveness http://www.secretan.com/blog/index.php/effectiveness/ by Lance Secretan Tue, 10 Jan 2012 17:33:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Louie Gardiner http://www.secretan.com/blog/index.php/effectiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-147 Louie Gardiner Wed, 18 Jan 2006 11:35:54 +0000 http://www.secretan.com/blog/?p=53#comment-147 Effectiveness - hmmm. Do all the principles lead to this point. Without effectively putting ourselves out into the world to make a wholesome contribution the other principles would lack meaning. Don Campbells story reminds me of my relationship with singing. Since 1997 I have been on a journey to develop my melodic voice. The fear I have felt over the years has been huge; the judgements I had about my voice were debilitating and yet my pull to pursue this - my passion and sense of purpose have helped me continue to ride through the fear to access the joy. I sourced singing lessons to help me develop my vocal technique and my competence has grown. When I sing alongside others I am more and more feel at one with them; when I sing on my own (in my own presence) I am at one; on the rare occasions when I stand before a group to sing solo - the fear kicks in and I lose access to much of what I have available within me. I lose my true, authentic voice. The fear of their judgement and of mine; the fear of looking ridiculous and singing bum notes (ie. not being perfect); the fear of being rejected etc ..... all kicks in ..... and all this separates me from the people in front of me; I place myself in front of them to do something to them ....that they might not want. Only twice (and just in the last year) have I experienced something different - when I framed it as 'giving' (ie being in service) the song to someone (my frail and failing mother and also to an inspiring man who is suffering badly from Parkinson's disease). In both cases I connected to the oneness of the universe and arrived at a state of grace, bliss and total connectedness with them and with all around me. Both times, at the end of the song I was visibly shaking/vibrating. It was so powerful and I felt so overwhelmed and filled with gratitude and love and emotion. And just the other day, as I shared my experiences with a very dear friend and was talking about the paradox of my wanting to sing 'to' others and yet the idea of 'performing' actually turned me off, I suddenly heard myself uttering the words that my purpose in wanting to sing to others is 'TO CONNECT US ALL TO THE DIVINE'. 'Divine' is not a word I generally use and yet its impact on hearing it was profound - I realised that I had been framing 'performing' as something inauthentic and disconnecting (which I don't want and is contrary to my personal values). So now I have a new way of looking at it. And having, in essence, found myself articulating this Destiny statement, the rest flowed out as if they had just been sitting inside me, waiting to be given birth fully formed. My Cause: 'Through song, to open all hearts to the joy of our universal connectedness'; My Calling: 'To love and serve by singing with and before others'. And right now, these are just words - I am not living them fully ....... and it all seems so huge and there is a bit of me that says 'who the hell are you to think you have any claim or ability to do this?' So where I am now, is beginning to explore how I can live this purpose and also what it means in terms of the Destiny, Cause and Calling I have previously articulated to myself (guidance from you Lance would be greatefully received). In the first instance I plan to explore how I can integrate all this into my consultancy and coaching practice - I know that the CASTLE principles will guide me in that journey......... fear will again be my teacher! Namaste Effectiveness – hmmm. Do all the principles lead to this point. Without effectively putting ourselves out into the world to make a wholesome contribution the other principles would lack meaning. Don Campbells story reminds me of my relationship with singing. Since 1997 I have been on a journey to develop my melodic voice. The fear I have felt over the years has been huge; the judgements I had about my voice were debilitating and yet my pull to pursue this – my passion and sense of purpose have helped me continue to ride through the fear to access the joy. I sourced singing lessons to help me develop my vocal technique and my competence has grown. When I sing alongside others I am more and more feel at one with them; when I sing on my own (in my own presence) I am at one; on the rare occasions when I stand before a group to sing solo – the fear kicks in and I lose access to much of what I have available within me. I lose my true, authentic voice. The fear of their judgement and of mine; the fear of looking ridiculous and singing bum notes (ie. not being perfect); the fear of being rejected etc ….. all kicks in ….. and all this separates me from the people in front of me; I place myself in front of them to do something to them ….that they might not want.

Only twice (and just in the last year) have I experienced something different – when I framed it as ‘giving’ (ie being in service) the song to someone (my frail and failing mother and also to an inspiring man who is suffering badly from Parkinson’s disease). In both cases I connected to the oneness of the universe and arrived at a state of grace, bliss and total connectedness with them and with all around me. Both times, at the end of the song I was visibly shaking/vibrating. It was so powerful and I felt so overwhelmed and filled with gratitude and love and emotion.

And just the other day, as I shared my experiences with a very dear friend and was talking about the paradox of my wanting to sing ‘to’ others and yet the idea of ‘performing’ actually turned me off, I suddenly heard myself uttering the words that my purpose in wanting to sing to others is ‘TO CONNECT US ALL TO THE DIVINE’. ‘Divine’ is not a word I generally use and yet its impact on hearing it was profound – I realised that I had been framing ‘performing’ as something inauthentic and disconnecting (which I don’t want and is contrary to my personal values). So now I have a new way of looking at it. And having, in essence, found myself articulating this Destiny statement, the rest flowed out as if they had just been sitting inside me, waiting to be given birth fully formed. My Cause: ‘Through song, to open all hearts to the joy of our universal connectedness’; My Calling: ‘To love and serve by singing with and before others’.

And right now, these are just words – I am not living them fully ……. and it all seems so huge and there is a bit of me that says ‘who the hell are you to think you have any claim or ability to do this?’

So where I am now, is beginning to explore how I can live this purpose and also what it means in terms of the Destiny, Cause and Calling I have previously articulated to myself (guidance from you Lance would be greatefully received). In the first instance I plan to explore how I can integrate all this into my consultancy and coaching practice – I know that the CASTLE principles will guide me in that journey……… fear will again be my teacher!

Namaste

]]> By: Dennis Pescitelli http://www.secretan.com/blog/index.php/effectiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-146 Dennis Pescitelli Tue, 17 Jan 2006 23:39:24 +0000 http://www.secretan.com/blog/?p=53#comment-146 We are so used to old-thinking notions of effectiveness based on reductionism that the idea of becoming effective through Oneness can seem disorienting and even jarring at first. Examples like Don???s help light the path by showing us how it???s done. Namaste We are so used to old-thinking notions of effectiveness based on reductionism that the idea of becoming effective through Oneness can seem disorienting and even jarring at first. Examples like Don???s help light the path by showing us how it???s done.

Namaste

]]> By: Al Farthing http://www.secretan.com/blog/index.php/effectiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-145 Al Farthing Tue, 17 Jan 2006 20:44:59 +0000 http://www.secretan.com/blog/?p=53#comment-145 A tempting morsel of a much larger feast yet to come! A tempting morsel of a much larger feast yet to come!

]]> By: Scott Regan http://www.secretan.com/blog/index.php/effectiveness/comment-page-1/#comment-144 Scott Regan Tue, 17 Jan 2006 19:34:03 +0000 http://www.secretan.com/blog/?p=53#comment-144 Indeed, in the physical sense, we are ONE. To draw a person, which I am not able to do, all the various components of that person must exist in harmony so that they are no longer individual pieces and parts, but a magnificent blending that creates oneness. True effectiveness comes from oneness. If you have perfect alignment with your head, your mouth, your heart, and your feet -- in other words, what you think, what you say, what you feel, and what you do are congruent -- you have oneness, and what you achieve in your life's journey will be greater than you can imagine. Thank you, Don, for sharing your story. Indeed, in the physical sense, we are ONE. To draw a person, which I am not able to do, all the various components of that person must exist in harmony so that they are no longer individual pieces and parts, but a magnificent blending that creates oneness. True effectiveness comes from oneness. If you have perfect alignment with your head, your mouth, your heart, and your feet — in other words, what you think, what you say, what you feel, and what you do are congruent — you have oneness, and what you achieve in your life’s journey will be greater than you can imagine. Thank you, Don, for sharing your story.

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